ANNA ONG LUM
September 28, 1933 – December 27, 2011
Of the eight children brought into this world by my parents, Kam Fong and Jeung Shee Ong, two were born in China: an older brother — Ong Gane Moon — who died in Woh On See village at the age of 3 months, never to receive a Western name; and the third of my older sisters, Anna, who lived in the village until she was four, when she sailed to America with Mom and four San Francisco-born older siblings. Anna’s Chinese name was Ong Fui Kang, and she was seven years my senior. Following a lengthy illness, Anna died two days after this past Christmas in Honolulu, where she resided with her husband Frank.
I want to share a bit about this older sis, Anna Ong Lum…
When Mom and the five children left Woh On See to sail from Hong Kong at the outset of Japan’s military aggression in China, she and Anna, non-U.S. citizens, arrived in San Francisco and were detained at Angel Island Immigration Station while Nellie, Joe, John and Lily were released to village cousins in Chinatown. It was a month before Dad was informed by mail that he had to go to San Francisco to officially collect Mom and Anna at Angel Island. He was waiting for his family in Mesa, Arizona, setting up a home behind South Side Grocery in the small desert town where he had relocated – it would be cheaper to raise the family there. (And with just one or two other Chinese families in Mesa at that time, the “pioneer” Ongs would find the Valley of the Sun much more foreign than either China or the Chinatown ghetto.)
When Anna first saw Dad, he was a virtual stranger, and she was frightened, but warmed up to him soon enough, especially because he was so gentle as he cared for her. She was a sweet, kind child, thin and not robust. Mom always told us that the lack of proper nutrition and pre-natal care in the impoverished farm village were the major reasons our “China doll” sis endured less than excellent physical health. Yet, throughout her life, Anna never once complained (to me, at least) about her illnesses and surgeries, not even the non-Hodgkins lymphoma cancer that she battled valiantly during her final years. We spoke on the phone about once a week, emailed back and forth, and she was consistently upbeat, optimistic, hopeful.
That was Anna, aka Ann, “Magoo” (because of her lousy eyesight) and Day-Day (older sister in our Hoisan dialect). Nothing kept her down for long! Her faith in God Almighty was truly the wind beneath her wings as she confronted her medical issues head-on, never whining, ever confident that her life was in God’s Hands, and that her purpose was simply to trust Him and serve Him through good as well as trying times. She went right on singing, and that sis of mine could sing!
I remember one hot summer afternoon back in the mid-40s when Ann was singing “I’m Always Chasing Rainbows” while stocking canned vegetables in a corner of our little grocery store in Mesa. Her clear soprano was such a joy to hear. She stopped in mid-song; we encouraged her to continue. Silence. Then the terrifying sound of a rattler. The snake had found its way into the dark coolness of the shelf Ann was stocking, and she fainted when she saw it, very possibly saving herself from a poisonous strike of that deadly desert denizen.
Mom would tell us tales about the big goose in China that always selected bare bottomed little Fui Kane to chase and snap at. Coming of age in Mesa, Ann didn’t seem to have a much easier time there with animals either – like the morning when several of us were taking a leisurely bike ride. We were heading home when I realized that Ann had trailed far behind, so we stopped for her. In a few minutes, we saw this cloud of dust speeding toward us, pursued by a bunch of barking neighborhood dogs. Soon we spotted Anna – pumping those pedals for all she was worth, trying frantically to put some distance (ANY distance) between her and those yapping canines! She wasn’t singing that time, I can assure you.
Besides “I’m Always Chasing Rainbows,” Anna enjoyed performing all the Hit Parade songs, encouraging me to sing along and harmonize. We had so much fun singing together! Some of her “greatest hits” were “Sentimental Journey,” “Tweedlee Dee,” “With a Song in My Heart,” “O Holy Night,” “The Lord’s Prayer” and “You’ll Never Walk Alone” from Rodgers and Hammerstein’s “Carousel” (“Walk on, walk on with hope in your heart, and you’ll never walk alone….”) Once, when she was in the hospital in Mesa, and children weren’t allowed inside to visit, I made up a silly, childish lullaby and surprised my Day-Day by serenading her outside her window. To this day, I can croon “Sleep Baby Sleep,” and Anna could too, if she were still with us. We actually did it often on the phone. I will always remember the tired, happy look on her face when I surprised her, and that is a very cherished reminiscence indeed.
When Dad encouraged Lily and Anna to attend the 1st Presbyterian Church in Mesa, both sisters joined the choir; Ann became the soloist. She introduced me and our kid sister Glenna to that church, and our Christian faith was sparked! Ann also influenced me in school, helping me with grammar, encouraging me to follow my passion to read and write. Day-Day had come to the United States not speaking English at all, and she embraced the learning process, developing fine study habits which she attempted to pass on to me. At Mesa High School, she was elected secretary of her senior class, and after graduating in 1951, she enrolled in various secretarial courses.
One vivid vision I still have at Christmastime is peeking in on Ann and several dozen other young women in a comptometer training class in Phoenix. I watched in amazement as they all twisted their fingers every which way, pounding on the keys of those strange office machines to add, subtract, multiply, divide and who knows what else. Truly intense finger work…very contorted and very loud…all in rhythm to Leroy Anderson’s lively instrumental version of “Sleigh Ride”. The sight cracked me up, and when Ann spotted me through the door window, she began laughing too. Thankfully, she never did have to use a comptometer professionally, but we both always thought of it whenever we heard “Sleigh Ride”…and I know I always will.
When Ann interviewed for a position in the business office of Arizona State College in Tempe (now ASU), she didn’t qualify for employment at the state institution, because she was not an American citizen. That prompted my Day-Day to apply for naturalization. We all helped her study for the big test. (Meanwhile, she, Mom and Dad filed Alien Registration forms at the post office every year after New Year’s Day.)
In the mid-50s, Anna Ong, all-American girl, moved to Los Angeles and began her career as an executive secretary. She wrote letters to me regularly (in distinctive, gorgeous cursive), always prodding me to study and work hard. She was the family member I asked to write a letter of recommendation when I applied for the Elks Club Youth Leadership Award (mainly for the big $50 prize!)…and she was the happiest of us all when I won.
While Ann was living in L.A., I once drove there in my ’60 VW Beetle to visit her and our married sister Lily, who was also residing there with her family. Somehow, Ann and I got the adventurous idea to drive back to Arizona, taking Lily’s precious 3-year old daughter Karen with us. Little Karen was quite excited, but after a few miles, the novelty of a road trip with Uncle Jack and Auntie Anna (away from her mommy and daddy) seemed to wear off, and Karen proceeded to cry (loudly) all the way to Blythe. Then she just sort of sobbed and whimpered between naps another few hours through Wickenburg, whereupon she resumed bawling until we got to Mesa. Perhaps it was that trip which convinced both my Day-Day and me that having children would be fine, as long as said children were just nephews and nieces whom we could eventually deposit back to their parents!
In the early 60s, Ann moved from L.A. to Honolulu, where she married Frank Lum on December 18, 1974. When I was returning home from service in the Navy in 1966, I stopped to visit her in Hawaii, and saw immediately how that ethnically diverse paradise had become Ann’s true home. She was so content there, happily involved with the choir of the 1st Presbyterian Church of Honolulu, where she never missed a single Thursday rehearsal or Sunday service unless she was sick!
Although Ann’s death has deeply grieved so many of us, we are blessed to know that she is singing at last with that most Heavenly choir of choirs, and that gives us great peace. And the last time I spoke with my Day-Day, as weak as she sounded, Ann was still encouraging me, still assuring me that everything is okay in God’s Hands!
So to you, dear Sis… Aloha.
January 5, 2012







